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Curvy and Lush

Anyone who knows me or has spent some time with me has heard me say that I love the differences between men and women. While television commercials often emphasize those variations in a negative light, making one appear superior to the other, I enjoy discovering how the contrasts complement each other.

There is a school of thought that describes men as more linear thinkers. Sometimes it shows up in a style of conversation. We often think of men as "staying on topic" and being minimalist in their conversational style while women talk in a more circular style. I think of it as being a curvy approach to dialogue. My theory is that our style of expressing ourselves can mimic our body type. Men are "straighter" and get to the point faster while we women can take you on a journey. I sometimes say on my way to making a point, "Stay with me, we'll get there.".

Men often accept an assignment and all they can focus on is that end result, big or small. If a woman comes to them with a "problem", they just want to go straight to it and fix it. There's nothing wrong with that. It's how they operate. On the other hand, another woman will usually want to talk about it, see how her "sister" is feeling, compare stories and maybe find a solution. Again, it's not about being right or wrong, it's different.

Another example: If a man is at home and heads upstairs to get something, that's exactly what he does. A woman will almost always scan the area, grab a few things that need to go upstairs and take care of a couple of other details she sees on the way. One way is not better than the other. They are each a reflection of the way the individual thinks and operates.

Earlier this week my Pleasure Peek was:

"My life is not linear.

Like my body, it is curvy and lush."

At times, I have been criticized for being unpredictable or worse. If I headed in one direction and realized it wasn't working for me, I've redesigned another course. Historically, women have been accused of being temperamental, mercurial, capricious, even unstable. The truth is, our feminine energy is always seeking to create a rounder, more voluptuous life. When partnered with masculine energy, it becomes a whole, vibrant entity, full of possibility. So, whether you're working on a relationship with another person or simply the male energy within yourself, embrace your curves, look for the abundance as well as keeping your eyes on the prize. Don't worry if the prize gets redefined from time to time-- that only contributes to the succulence and richness of your life!


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Barbara L Cummings, MS, RN

is a sassy Queen-ager whose mission is to co-create a happier, healthier life with and for others.

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