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The Good Stuff Doesn't Stop Here

For the third week in a row, Howdy! Thank you for letting me into your life once again. With so much going on in the world, I'm tempted to say I feel overwhelmed at times. It's true that sometimes it starts to feel like there's a little too much ... to take in, to absorb, to acknowledge, to have a response. Mostly, though, it feels so ripe, like a juicy peach, ready for the picking and enjoyment. . . And then there are times when I think it would be good to go to bed and pull the covers over my head!

I'm busy teaching and playing around with some ideas for courses and programs. I found myself getting nervous about a particular class I'm helping facilitate and then I realized I was falling into an old state of mind -- I was worried that I wouldn't have all the answers and that I should somehow know everything (how would that even be possible?!?) or else not even bother trying to assist. Thank goodness the different mentors I've had over the years never gave in to that skewed logic.  

This week's MQ was a comment from what's been on my mind recently:

"If I'm a coach and mentor, why do I have a coach? I need someone to bear witness and hear my confessions. I need them to hold me in a non-judgemental, safe space while I learn to love and appreciate myself.  Then, I can give it all back to the world and help someone else."

Having a coach or mentor is like taking a short-cut. Have you ever decided you want to change something up? Let's say you want to get a little more fit, stronger -- something near and dear to my heart. Maybe you've already been here, done that ...? Usually what happens is we "think" about it for a while. We're not really sure what the next step should or could be. We mull it over and we might even start looking up gyms or equipment to use at home, especially in the middle of an epidemic. We might even talk about it with a friend, but just a little and then go on to another subject. It could take months before you do anything or you might drop the intention all together and just move on to the next idea or aspiration. Part of what holds us back is that we think we should be able to put it all together, all on our own and that there might be something weak or wrong about us if we can't or don't. Nothing could be further from the truth. One of my favorite quotes about this is from Barack Obama:

"Don't be afraid to ask questions.

Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. I do that every day. Asking for help isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength. It shows you have the courage to admit when you don't know something, and to learn something new." I'm always bouncing thoughts off people in my life. These folks are often coaches, therapists, or guides. They offer me new perspectives and it never seems like I need to keep this "info" just to myself. It always feels like I'm a channel and that it's my responsibility to take in what I've learned and pass it along. 

Whatever it is that you might be questioning or even struggling with, I would highly recommend you consider getting some assistance. It's often amazing how much clarity we can find when we stop spinning around looking for all the answers in our minds. Get yourself a mentor, a coach, a trainer, an advisor ... whatever you want to call them and let them hold you and hear you and see you. Let your life get bigger and better. This is what I wish for you. 

Sparkles and Love,


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Barbara L Cummings, MS, RN

is a sassy Queen-ager whose mission is to co-create a happier, healthier life with and for others.

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