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Relax and Release

I don't usually do this in my bi-weekly blogette, but today I feel like greeting everyone ...

"Hello! How's it going for you? My current mantra is,

"I hope you are happy and healthy!"

As much as I'm encouraging everyone to turn off the tv and radio and to stop reading every report that comes out about the Corona Virus and as much as I would like to write about anything but the current state of affairs, I know it's still on everyone's mind. So, I'm going to offer some words of advice, some wisdom from this Crone and I want to make it clear that this is information to be used at any time.

This week's Monday Quote was:

"Most of us think that our power is tied in with struggle,

misery, and self-sacrifice when really it comes from

relaxing, releasing, and finding our joy."

There are many ways to explain this, but I'm going to go for the one that is the most direct and simple.

When we allow our thoughts to be consumed by a particular, troubling situation, we keep our focus on how bad it is. This attention continues to hold that energy and even helps it grow and expand. Somewhere along the way we got the idea that it's more "noble" to be miserable and wrestle with life. Think about the last time you were dealing with something that really bothered you. Did you come up with a solution or feel like you were getting ahead of the issue the more you grappled with it? Or, when you just couldn't figure out what to do and you were banging your head against the wall, did you finally decide to "give up" (I call this coming to your senses) and maybe even let it go? And what happened next? My guess is that the circumstances righted themselves, usually in a way we couldn't have imagined, or perhaps even disappeared.

Choosing the path of least resistance, easing up, and practicing detachment will always feel better. Also, because you'll be distancing yourself from the lower, more distressing vibration, you'll be allowing a new, higher energy to take over and things will improve.

There is nothing righteous about suffering and difficulty. It doesn't contribute to our well-being nor does it spread joy and hope to anyone around us. You know this -- when you are troubled, you feel "down" and "heavy". It doesn't feel like it would be easy to continue on. When you are calmer, more centered, and at ease, you feel lighter and the world of possibility opens up for you. From which place or feeling do you think workable, doable and promising answers come?!?

As I said in the beginning, this process can be applied to many situations. Since we are in our current circumstances, this is what I suggest: Do what's easy ...

  • Wash your hands and limit direct contact with people. That does not mean you can't have connection. See next points.

  • Talk to friends -- what a great time to catch up! Avoid complaining and instead, share ways you're figuring out how to navigate this unusual time. Use Facetime, Zoom, Skype or just speak to each other by phone. If you have neighbors, talk across the driveway.

  • If you can't talk, try texting or email. Let others know you are thinking about them. Pass on things you've found that are helping you get through this.

  • Research ways in which you can help someone or others. I know Jimmy Fallon has been broadcasting from home and is supporting various causes each night. James Corden had a show from his garage a couple of nights ago and explained how to help the CDC and Feed The Children. You can see a lot of it on YouTube and you can probably even find it on Hulu or someplace like that.

  • Get outside (if you can) and spend some time with nature, even if it's just finding a tree or a flower and gazing at its perfection.

  • Meditate every morning. Get in touch with your inner being, your Soul. This is where you'll come to realize that Source Energy is always looking out for you. You can call it God or Universe or whatever makes you most comfortable. Remember, we are going for what makes us feel good.

  • Find some inspiration on YouTube to start your day. There is so much there whether it's guided meditations or motivational rants or whatever pumps you up.

  • Look for what delights you during the day, perhaps in unexpected ways or places.

  • Make a gratitude list at night.

I've said it here and on Facebook and Instagram ... I know we will get through this and I believe there will be gifts in the end. There always are. As I said at the beginning, my mantra and prayer is, "Stay healthy and happy" and this is what I wish for you.

Sparkles and Love,

P.S. If you're having a really hard time, feel free to reach out and contact me by email,

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About the Author




Barbara L Cummings, MS, RN

is a sassy Queen-ager whose mission is to co-create a happier, healthier life with and for others.

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