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Willing or Will Not?

Hey, there -- how's it going? I am running on fumes after a couple of super busy weeks. I signed a 12-month lease on my first apartment in eight years! It's been a wonderful series of Airbnb's, staying with family, and finding adorable farms for a few months at a time. Even though I downsized considerably, I still had some things in storage and it felt like my car was always packed to the brim. The time came for me to make a decision about what was next ...

Which leads me to this week's Bloom. The Seed I planted a few days ago came from a reflection on a lot of my life, especially since I'm in a little more transition than usual ...

"Willingness is like a key to multiple queendoms."

I have a pretty adventurous life and I take some risks. For me, it's a "style" I've cultivated over time. I often hear people say they love hearing about my travels and experiences. Frequently someone will say they would like to do some of the same things, but they "can't". The word can't implies an inability ... not able to take that trip or change jobs or go back to school or make new friends. None of that is probably true. Yes, I've done all those things and I'm not particularly extraordinary --- well, yes, I am, in the same way that we are all marvelous and exceptional beings -- but the point I'm trying to make here is that I was willing to take chances, get vulnerable, put myself out there and step into the unknown.

The definition of willing is "ready, eager, or prepared to do something". Being ready or prepared doesn't mean you've got it all figured out. It simply means that you're going to give something a try or you've decided to move forward. Adding "eagerly" to that gives a sweet, positive vibe to it all. Willingness needs to come from the heart and soul and a place of trust. As I was unpacking books for the first time in a few years, I came across one of my favorites by Iyanla Vanzant, Trust, Mastering the Four Essential Trusts. I highly recommend it, especially because it might help you examine ways in which you can become more willing and this is what I wish for you. Now that I'm setting up my new "office" and settling into new digs, I've opened up space and time for new clients. If you've been thinking about getting support with your wellness and personal journey, now is the time! I usually charge for information sessions, but readers of my blogettes get a pass on the first session to see if it's a good fit all around. Contact me soon -- slots are filling up. Also, I'm offering a 5-part course on aging and being happy about it. It's coming up in a couple of weeks so if you or someone you know is trying to find the joy in getting older, get in touch! It will be fun.

Sparkles and Love,


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Barbara L Cummings, MS, RN

is a sassy Queen-ager whose mission is to co-create a happier, healthier life with and for others.

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