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The Goldilocks Principle

Welcome back to another "episode" of The Bloom. How are things with you this week? I hope you're finding the sparkles and love in your life -- if not, do your best to make some!

This week's Seed comes from something I heard in a class recently:

"Learn to go for goals that fit you and are 'just right', or, as Dr. Laura Hills calls them, Goldilocks Goals."

I heard those words at just the right time! When my car broke down almost a year ago in S Oregon and I had to rearrange nearly everything in my life, I experienced a kind of surrender to the Universe. Instead of seeing it as a gross inconvenience, somehow I was able to look at it as a series of opportunities. I had a chance to try out truly rural living for several months. I decided to immerse myself in a 6-month Nurse Coach Program. Everything seemed a little simpler. and straightforward. I had to put in some effort, but nothing was formidable or massively difficult. Even after my car was finally fixed, six months later, I stayed around a few weeks longer and relished my easy-going, yet very productive routine. Then, I started my drive east and for the last five months I have been struggling with either my plans being too big, like Papa Bear's too hot porridge, or I've nearly given up on planning anything, similar to Mama Bear's porridge being too cold. It's been hard to find my just right sweet spot.

I understand when I have huge ideas and create an enormous goal -- my Ego is standing up and shouting, just to be heard. Instead of following my Soul, I'm usually more concerned with how other people will see or perceive me. When I decide to just loll around it's usually because I'm either afraid to try something or put myself out there or I'm exhausted from the impossible task I set myself up for with my Ego. Neither one of these feels very good and so, I have been looking for "Goldilocks Goals" -- ones that feel "just right". Ones that will challenge me and get me just enough out of my comfort zone that I can feel a sense of accomplishment, yet not overwhelmed. This is the best place to be. I don't have to make myself write a book. I can play around with getting into a writing routine and trying out "chapters". I'm taking baby steps in finding an apartment and so on. This boosts my happiness as well as my feelings of success and this is what I wish for you. Are you struggling with something? I've helped a lot of people with health, wellness, anxiety, and simply feeling better. Sign up for a call with me and I'll give you three things you can do to get started.

Sparkles and Love,


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Barbara L Cummings, MS, RN

the Mindful Maven and Mistress of Meditation, is a sassy Queen-ager, mentor, confidante and trusted guide who provides people with everyday life support. 

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