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The Gift of Contrast

A flamboyant Hello to you all!

See what I did there? If you read my last blogette, you'll get it. If you didn't, get yo'self over to the site and check it out.

I'd love to know how you're faring these days?!

We've been hit with some unseasonable, very cool (as in lower temps, but also pretty awesome) days and nights. Since it's New England, I'm betting on another heat wave before the end of the month.

I'm finding it interesting how people are reacting differently to this weather. For some, it just doesn't seem "right", it's "too early" for such chilly days. For others, it's a relief because they flat out don't like 90 degree weather and this leads me into the MQ from last Monday ...

"Contrast is a good thing.

Experiencing what we don't want

helps us affirm what we truly desire."


I try to be really vigilant about how much complaining I do. Mostly, if I catch myself yammering away about whatever, I'm able to turn it off because I've worked on recognizing it. Grumbling and criticizing isn't good for my soul unless I have a solution to a problem that addresses my dissatisfaction. It's easy to get into a whine fest (I prefer the "wine" kind!) with some friends, but it only serves to lower our vibration and mood.

On the other hand, even though I don't relish having unpleasant experiences or receiving something I don't want, I've learned that they can be valuable. They provide contrast. I love Google's definition:

"the state of being strikingly different from something else in juxtaposition or close association"

When I'm faced with a situation that is difficult or disagreeable or annoying I have options. I can start getting into it and go deeper and become more irritated. OR, and this is very important, I can recognize that this is something I am not interested in entertaining and instead, enjoy the exploration of what I would prefer.

I know I sound like a broken record sometimes, but where our attention goes, our energy flows. As long as I spend time with what is irksome or distressing, I will continue to perpetuate that energy. If I spend time daydreaming, if you will, or at least thinking about something I prefer, I'll feel lighter and stand a very good chance of calling that in. Seeing what I don't want or like is the first step in moving toward what I truly fancy ... this is what I wish for you.


I had a little contrast show up for me when I sat down to write this. I had an open bottle of water right next to my computer and, you probably know where this is going, ... I spilled it onto my keyboard! Talk about knowing what I wanted or didn't want. I had to borrow a computer to write this and it reminded me that I love my Mac and it's getting old and the screen has a bit of an issue ever since I dropped it on a concrete floor out on one of the Oregon farms. I'm going shopping!

Are you at a turning point in your life? Often, in our 40's, something happens that can seem scary, but I think is an awakening. I'm putting together a community and some classes to look at this, this fall. Are you interested? I'd love to have you join us on this adventure. Let me know here if you're curious.

Sparkles and Love,

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Barbara L Cummings, MS, RN

is a sassy Queen-ager whose mission is to co-create a happier, healthier life with and for others.

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